Remember taking your first board exams or appearing for that important job interview? Well, in case those days have passed and you don't think life is testing you enough, try shopping for a Valentine's Day gift for your girlfriend (or wife). In case you forgot (shame on you), it is just a week away.
Hunting for the right Valentine's Day gift is probably the most trying shopping experience in any man's life. And don't kid yourself for a moment that it is just like buying a birthday gift. Nope! The stakes here are much higher.
Whether you realise it or not, your gift will speak of affection, thoughtfulness and commitment.
Read on for a few basic gift ideas, depending on where you place your relationship.
Frugal, yet thoughtful
A romantic evening dinner needn't necessarily mean a fancy restaurant and a hefty bill. Try setting up the terrace of your building with a couple of mattresses, a low set table, some Kenny G on the side with scented candles. The brilliance here is that you are surprising her with the ambience and the privacy, so the focus is off the expensive food.
Order in some food or try cooking up a dish by yourself.
If you both are not into food, try wine with a snack. One of the most convenient and romantic options is cheese, cherry and pineapple cubes skewered on toothpicks. Try arranging the toothpicks on the surface of a half cut cabbage globe.
Movie buffs? Then pick up some of her favourite movies and cuddle up to a movie marathon right in your living room. Keep popcorn, chips and aerated drinks ready.
Personalised CD
Burn a CD of her favourite love songs or poems and customise a cover with a picture of the two of you. Efficient, romantic and economical!
Photo frame
All you need is a good quality frame. Choose one that goes with her personality, not necessarily a mushy one. Rummage through your drawer or old photo albums for a photo of the both of you and voila!
Preferably, choose a moment-defining snap such as one taken on her birthday, earlier anniversary or simply the oldest one you possess.
Personalised art
Gift her a painting (if you do it yourself, great) or a sketch or some scribbled conversation you had shared earlier in a pretty frame.
Bonsai
This scores high on the novelty front and is especially synonymous with recent yet serious relationships. You can also try gifting small plants etc, though for obvious reasons, avoid gifting cacti!
Candle stand
It's not as inane as it sounds. Women are quite fond of candles, and there are some very innovative designs available at most gift stores. The more interesting ones are crafted of pewter or wrought iron. If you do gift her one, it would be a good idea to add scented candles as well.
A coffee maker
This scores high on practicality if your lady loves her coffee. It's a great gift if she is living as a paying guest or renting an apartment along with others. Most women can discern between a latte, cappuccino, instant and freshly brewed coffee instantaneously. There are also cheaper variants in terms of a filter coffee (South Indian kapi) machine that you could opt for. This will ensure she thinks of you with her cuppa every morning.
The classics
Flowers
These are never passé. A well arranged bouquet of flowers with a note always works. She might have certain floral preferences, so try keeping them in mind. Tulips, lilies, carnations are among the more popular ones. Of course, there is the rose. Well, actually there are many roses and they have many meanings:
Red: Love, respect
White: Innocence, reverence, purity
Red and White: Unity
Pink: Grace, gentility
Yellow: Joy
Orange: Desire
Rose buds: Beauty, youth
Two red roses joined together: Engagement or marriage (use carefully)!
Chocolates
This one never fails. It spells out sensuality. Prefer the home made variety to the usual packaged ones. The new variants are the custom made chocolate-coated fruits. Among the popular foreign chocolates are Lindt-Lindor, Cappuchino or Godiva dark chocolates.
Perfumes
Does she have a particular scent that reminds you of just her? Time to track down what that perfume is. Consult a friend of hers on the choice of perfume. Alternately, stick to the more conventional brands.
Jewellery
Every woman loves the feeling of lifting her hair as her man ties her a necklace from behind. It may be a tad expensive but nothing turns on the charm quite as much as this one. Go in for a simple pendant on a silver chain for a more elegant look.
Spa treatment
Take her out to a spa or a Kerala massage parlour that stocks scented oils. Unwind for the day together in saunas or in pools. Enjoy a quiet lunch or dinner with some ambient music by the side later in the day.
Gym membership
Take a six month or one year membership for her. Some gyms offer a discount if two sign up together. Maybe you could take out a membership for both of you together.
Some gyms will try and convince you to opt for the add-on services too -- like a massage package, personal trainer, dietician... You may find it too steep, so stick to the basic cardio and weight training.
If she is not into weight training, then maybe you could look around for an aerobics class for her.
Dance classes
Do this together. This one's a clear winner if you don't crush her toes every time you hit the dance floor. And if you really hit it off, few other things advance relationships like this one. So, get closer, salsa your way into her heart.
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