How to enjoy the single life
It's the end of the month. Very soon the landlord will be knocking on your front door, demanding the rent.
You also probably survive on a very insipid dhabba and long eagerly for a home-cooked meal.
Sounds familiar? These are part and parcel of having to live away from your family.
To address your concerns, we offered Top survival mantras for living alone.
We now feature your stories about living alone -- your raves, your rants, your advice...
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But the last seven months have added to my perspective. I can now vouch that living on your own is not at all that easy. Here are some of the reasons:
~ Support system: The complete lack of one, emotional or otherwise, can get to the most unemotional of people; you start realising just how important your family and friends back home are to you.
~ Health: Taking care of yourself, visiting the doctor when you fall sick, arranging for medicines and fending for yourself is an experience in itself.
~ Finance: I never imagined money would become such an issue, until it did, when I went broke and the next salary payment was still a week away. Learning to budget and avoiding over-spending and buying unnecessary stuff are some of the things I have learnt the hard way.
~ Chores: If you think getting a maid is tough, try matching your schedule with hers! This apart, regular chores, which you took for granted back home, will drive you crazy.~ Making friends: In a big city like Mumbai, making new friends is a challenge for a working professional like me; time, work pressure and inclination all work against you. No matter how hard you try, your circle will not expand beyond colleagues/ business partners, etc, who are not much fun anyway.
The list can go on and on but, in the midst of all this, I realised living alone makes you a complete human being; you may not be confident about yourself but you know that, by hanging in there, you will find answers to everything that life has to offer.
The essence of freedom is responsibilities.
-- Suraj Saraf, 24, manager-distribution, Dimensional Securities, Mumbai
At the ripe old age of 29, I was single, footloose and fancy free. I decided it was time to cut the umbilical cord, move out on my own and experience what 'taking care of my own home' would be like.
A woman my age would normally be married and taking care of her home, but seeing that marriage is a long way off, I decided it was time I looked for my own home anyway.
This isn't easy, especially if you are Indian; unless you're married or moving out of the country, living on your own is definitely not an option. But then, since I am pretty headstrong and was quite gung-ho about being independent, I moved out anyway.Oh yeah, I got the whole 'we did so much for you' from the folks. But -- he, he -- nothing was gonna change my mind!
If you think moving out is gonna give you a whole lot of free time to party, THINK AGAIN!In between working and making sure I had the water tanks filled during the time the municipal arrived through the taps, cooking, washing clothes and cleaning the house, the last thing I need is to go to a crowded discotheque and shake a leg. And I was someone who partied religiously at least twice a week. This frequency reduced to once in two months and finally tapered down to not at all!
The funny thing is, I don't miss it at all!
My priorities changed overnight, as I went from being a messy ma'am to a Monica (from the sitcom Friends) type -- I became obsessed with cleanliness! I remember the first time I had some gal pals over -- I was literally following them around with a mop to wipe up any dropped ash or drink rings. It was really quite funny. Now I have them over a lot, even for sleepovers, and no, I don't walk around with the mop anymore.
The first thing I did was to buy computer with a television tuner card, so I have Stevie (my television) and Stanley (my CPU) to keep me company. I have been on my own for the last five months now and it's been awesome. I do not have any real problems, but when there's leak in the pipes, or the fuse goes off, then I have to be all grown up. Things I used to take for granted like clean, ironed clothes and a nice fresh towel are things are now need to take care of myself!
It has been an amazing learning experience. Things don't upset me as easily and I've discovered a strength in me I never thought I had. Everyone should live alone for some time -- it brings out the best and, in some cases, the worst in people. Go ahead, live a little!
-- Anisha Fernandes, 29, creative consultant, MumbaiDON'T MISS!
Do you currently live alone?
Was is tough locating a house? How do you manage money every month? Are the neighbours nosy?
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